Her words are haunting.
"He looked at me, goes 'Hey you f***ing hear me … and then he looked at me, he goes 'Bitch, get the f*** out of my house,' and he started to try to drag me off the bed," she recalled.
"Did you tell anyone else?" she was asked.
"I did. I told her I was at the lowest of the low."
Then she told at least two other friends. And the incident was apparently caught on tape; a copy of which her son found a year later and then wrote on Facebook about the abuse he had witnessed.
My brother and I watched our mom come out of pure hell after getting out of her relationship.... For several months we knew something wasn’t right and couldn’t figure it out. When we asked our mom if everything was ok, she told us she was dealing with some stress and would be ok.In the middle of 2017, I was using my moms computer trying to download something and I clicked on a file, I found over 100 text and twitters messages and video almost 2 min long that showed Keith Ellison dragging my mama off the bed by her feet, screaming and calling her a “fucking bitch” and telling her to get the fuck out of his house. The messages I found, were mixed with him consistently telling my mom he wanted her back, he missed her, he knew he fucked up and we wished he could do things different, he would victim shaming, bully her, and threaten her if she went public. I text him and told him I know what you did to my mama and a few other things.
I met up with my mom that night and asked her what happened. She said nothing happened until I told her I saw a video and hell of a lot of messages saying something different. She finally talked. My brother and I were so angry and hurt for our mom. We were ready to go public but our mom begged us not to and she along with others convinced us it wasn’t in our moms best interest.
I saw message after message through out all that time, where my mom was telling him she wasn’t going back to him but still saw his humanity and offered restorative justice. I honestly don’t see how she would offer him that, but thats her choice.
Sitting all this time, watching what our mom went through and not being able to say or do anything was hard as hell. None of you know the hell our family has gone through.
Unfortunately, his mother lost the video during a move, but in a statement of her own, said:
I had survived narcissist abuse. Unless you have been through narcissist abuse, it is the most difficult form of abuse to articulate. It leaves survivors (if they survive) with serious health impacts, complex ptsd, depression and so many other devastating impacts. It is a slow insidious form of abuse. You don’t realize it is happening until it’s too late. Now that I understand it and have done so much healing, I can look back at certain moments and experiences in this relationship and they now make perfect sense. I or nobody else can diagnose a person with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). But I am well aware of the traits and I witnessed each one of them.
The complex PTSD started around 2014, I knew something wasn’t right but couldn’t put my finger on it. Every part of me began to change, including my health. I couldn’t remember things as well, my mind was slow at times and then it would race. By time I left the relationship in the middle of January 2017, my hair was falling out, I had severe pain in my neck, back and legs. My social life was suffering due to isolation, my work was slipping and it was all becoming noticeable. I became someone I didn’t recognize, on the inside or out.
Years earlier, another ex-girlfriend claimed that the same man abused her in almost the exact same way. She first dated him in the early 90s, while he was still married, but got back together in 2004 before breaking up in 2005.
“In May, [he] wanted to try and quiet me so he came to my home uninvited,” she wrote. “We had words. His anger kicked in. He berated me. He grabbed me and pushed me out of the way. I was terrified. I called the police. As he fled he broke my screen door. I have never been so scared.”
A 911 report from the incident corroborates her claims, indicating that she told dispatchers that her ex-boyfriend had assaulted her.
Two credible claims of physical and emotional abuse, indicating a pattern of behavior dating back decades. Both claims backed up by contemporaneous accounts and documentation.
Yet he remains as powerful as he ever has been, and no one has called for his resignation. No one has called for an investigation into his behavior. Why not?
Perhaps because he is Keith Ellison, Democratic Congressman, candidate for Minnesota Attorney general, and co-chair of the Democratic National Committee.